I see your man controlling you, and I see you allowing him to.
I see him smothering you and watching your every move.
I see him keeping you on a tight leash, censoring your words, what you say, how you speak, your freedom of expression.
I see him guilt-tripping you and using the kids to manipulate you.
I see him backing you into a corner.
I see him projecting his own fears and insecurities onto you KUINI, but his fears and insecurities are not yours and they don’t belong to you. His fears and insecurities are not your burden to bear.
Don’t take them on board. Refuse to own what isn’t yours.
I see him spinning out when you want to go out with your friends, getting paranoid, commenting on what you are wearing and WHY you are wearing it, commenting on how you do your make up and how you choose to present yourself.
It is YOUR CHOICE what you wear and how you look, it’s not up to him and it’s none of his business.
He doesn’t OWN you KUINI. You are allowed to go out with your friends, you have a RIGHT to go out your friends, and NO HE DOES NOT NEED TO ACCOMPANY you everywhere.
KUINI you deserve better! You deserve a partner who treats you as an equal, and is HAPPY for you to be free and happy!
I see him losing his shit at you and getting triggered by you just being your AWESOME self.
Well KUINI, you are allowed to be your AWESOME self, that is your RIGHT!
I see him threatened by your radiance, your beauty, your talents, your magnetism and your skills.
I see him trying to LIMIT and CONTAIN you, and you deserve better KUINI!
You have a right to make your own choices KUINI, independently of him.
You have a right to do what you need to do in order for you to be happy.
HIS happiness is not your responsibility, it is his responsibility.
I see him leering at you in the doorway, blocking your way from moving past him, TRAPPING you.
You deserve better KUINI!
YOU DESERVE SO MUCH MORE THAN THAT!
I see him trying to offload all his demons and childhood trauma onto you KUINI, but only HE has the power to slay those demons and heal those wounds. And deep down you know that!
I see him pulling you into his addictions too KUINI, but that’s not your ultimate destiny now, is it??
Stop allowing yourself to be treated in ways that FEEL WRONG to you.
Stop allowing him to stamp on your self esteem and kill you from the inside.
Stop allowing him to hurt you repeatedly.
Stop allowing him to tell you what to do and how to do it and when to do it.
INSIST on seeing your friends and family, without him!
INSIST on dressing how you bloody well please.
INSIST on your right to speak your truth.
INSIST on GETTING YOUR OWN NEEDS MET, whatever that means to you.
INSIST on living in a positive and healthy environment.
INSIST on being treated with respect.
INSIST on loving yourself.
INSIST on whatever is that you NEED KUINI.
YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO!
YOU DESERVE TO HAVE YOUR NEEDS MET KUINI.
I LOVE YOU.
CHOOSE TO LOVE YOURSELF TODAY.
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